Marriage can be a wonderful thing. But it can also be a thorn in your side at times. There are ups and downs. And sometimes there are just no nothing nada zilch moments where you are both comfortably silent in the car, not needing to say anything.
Sometimes your partner is your best friend and other times you want to shut the door and not speak to them for a good while. There’s frustrations and arguments – some big, some small – and there are times when all you want to do is hug that other person who shares your life.
Marriages vary and not one is the exact same because people are not the same and mixing them together leads to unknown chemistry.
You hope that you both work on it daily, even though there are times you want to ignore the world around you – including your significant other – and just, well, take a nap. And that’s ok.
There’s no perfect formula because what works for one couple may not for another.
You make a list in your head telling yourself what you want in a partner, and the criteria becomes even more concrete the older you get. But life doesn’t work that way. We are not made of lists. We are human. There is no perfect anything or anyone who will fit the “bill” exactly as you perceive it. Accept and move on.
Just like life, marriage is stepping into the unknown. There are some things you know for sure, and others that you think you know, but could be proven wrong. And just like life, some marriages last a long time, while others end within a few years.
There’s no telling which way that partnership will go from one day to the next, let alone one year to the next. All you can do is take a deep breath and keep moving forward.